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There is Hope Foundation

643 Rice Rd. San Antonio, Texas 78220

There is Hope 

Helping the family endure and have hope

Premarital Counseling, Life Coaching,Biblical Counsel

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Intimate Partner Abuse

Posted on 11 December, 2019 at 19:37 Comments comments (68)
October was intimate partner abuse month.  I did not get a chance to write about it. So, I will now.

It is not OK.  It is not OK to be abuse by anyone.  There is never a justifiable reason to abuse someone.  Abuse can be mental, physical, financial, emotional just to name a few types.  

Many may feel like they have no choice but to stay in an abusive relationship.  That is not true.  Yes, it will or can be a little unsettling or scary.  But, you have to keep in mind that you do not deserve to be abused.  Abuse is about control.  No adult has the right to abuse another adult.  No adult has the right to control another adult. 

To anyone that is in an intimate partner abuse relationship, get help.  There is help available.  Call this number: 1-800-799-7233.  You can also chat on line at thehotline.org.


What is domestic partner abuse?  Domestic violence (also called intimate partner violence (IPV), domestic abuse or relationship abuse) is a pattern of behaviors used by one partner to maintain power and control over another partner in an intimate relationship.

Here are some of the signs of domestic partner abuse:

Some of the signs of an abusive relationship include a partner who:
  • Tells you that you can never do anything right
  • Shows extreme jealousy of your friends and time spent away
  • Keeps you or discourages you from seeing friends or family members
  • Insults, demeans or shames you with put-downs
  • Controls every penny spent in the household
  • Takes your money or refuses to give you money for necessary expenses
  • Looks at you or acts in ways that scare you
  • Controls who you see, where you go, or what you do
  • Prevents you from making your own decisions
  • Tells you that you are a bad parent or threatens to harm or take away your children
  • Prevents you from working or attending school
  • Destroys your property or threatens to hurt or kill your pets
  • Intimidates you with guns, knives or other weapons
  • Pressures you to have sex when you don’t want to or do things sexually you’re not comfortable with
  • Pressures you to use drugs or alcohol

Children and Electronics

Posted on 3 April, 2018 at 3:16 Comments comments (77)
A subject that is very dear to me is how and when children begin to use electronics.  I am a firm believer that a child should not have access to a cell phone, lap top, tablet or television during the first 5 years of their lives.  I know, it sound like a long time, but it is worth the wait for the child.  The first five years of a child's life are the informative years.  It is during this time that time should be spent helping the child learn to live without electronics.

A recent article I read stated the following: "over the past 15 years, researchers have been releasing alarming statistics on a sharp and steady increase in kids' mental illness, which is now reaching epidemic proportions:

              1.  1 in 5 children has mental health problems
              2.  43% increase in ADHA
              3.  37% increase in teen depression
              4.  200% increase in suicide rate in kids 10-14 years old"

The articles goes on to say, "children need to spend time with their parents and not an electronic device.    Children are being deprived  of the fundamentals of a healthy childhood, such as emotionally available parents, clearly defined limits and guidance, responsibilities, balanced nutrition and adequate sleep, movement and out doors and creative play, social interaction, opportunities for unstructured times and boredom."

Will follow up laater.

Children Have to Be Taught!!

Posted on 28 July, 2017 at 13:52 Comments comments (34)
I had a conversation with a lady the other day.  During the conversation she spoke about how unruly children are today; yelling at parents, making demands, being disrespectful, being disobedient, how you can not tell them anything, and if you do the parents get offended.

i thought about what she said.  And, she is right.  Not all children, but too many than it should be.

I believe in training or teaching children right from wrong.  According to the word of God, He said to train them up in the way they should go.  A child should not be allowed to have control.  The parent is the one with the God given authority and they should not relinquish it to a child.  At no time is it ok for a child to be disobedient to parents (unless the parent is instructing the child to break the law or do something that will cause them harm).  Parents should not get offended if some one within right, corrects their child.  I raised two children alone.  I needed the eyes of others to help me.  

Children need structure.  That structure should come from parents.  And, I am not talking about enrolling in every sport available for their age group.  I am talking about things like boundaries (what they can and can not do).  If a parent allows a child to have everything they want, go wherever they want when they want, that parent is asking for trouble.  There has to be a NO in there somewhere.

Why structure?  Because in the real world, no one gets everything they want.  In he real world, you are going to be told no.  In the real world, your child is not going to be the only one that counts.  Having structure helps build character.
Children must learn how to handle rejection in a constructive manner.

To the parents, take a look and see how you are doing.  It really is ok to say, no.

Developing a Healthy Relationship with Your Spouse

Posted on 17 September, 2016 at 16:24 Comments comments (31)
Part of having a good marriage is to continue to work on your relationship with you spouse.

Respect for one another is very important.  It sort of serves as a foundation for communication in the marriage.  From the foundation of respect, lets add honesty.
Being hones with each other can sometimes be hard.  Being honest means having to tell the truth about how you feel. For some, this is not easy.

But, work on it.  Work on being respectful to your mate.  Work on being honest with one another.



M. Webb
There is Hope

Do Not Give Up

Posted on 26 July, 2016 at 17:59 Comments comments (95)
Man that is born of a woman is but a few days and those days are full of trouble.  You do not have to go looking for trouble.  Trouble will find you.  But do not give up.

Husbands, wives, children, family.....do not give up.  Relationships go through changes.  Why?  Because the people involved change and grow.  As one matures likes and dislikes change, habits change.  Change is part of relationships.  Do not give up.

Sometimes you need a safe place to talk, discover the root cause of your feelings or what you are going through.  Find a trusted friend, Pastor, family member that you can talk real talk to that you can confide in.  The Lord has so much in store for you.  Do not give up.  Your family is worth fighting for.


No Shouting

Posted on 20 December, 2015 at 5:11 Comments comments (6)
If there is a break down in communication one must be willing to talk.  Not shout, but talk.  If the silence between parties is allowed to continue, the relationship will suffer.  When there is shouting, there is no listening.  And, listening is part of the communication process.

So, don't shout.  Talk

Family Time Together

Posted on 23 November, 2015 at 22:51 Comments comments (10)
Another way to help build your family relationships is to spend time together during dinner.  I know, as a nation with all the hustle and bustle of life the family has gotten away from spending time together on a daily basis.  But, with the more activities the family is involved with it is beginning to become a necessity  again to spend time together.

So be encouraged today to take time daily to talk with your family.  Having dinner together is a great way to  bond as a family after a long day.  It can be a time for mom and dad to connect.  It can be a time for siblings to connect.  It can be a time for parent and child to connect.  It's just a win win time.

I would like to hear from some of you that try this.  Its all about the family.

A Study of Marriage

Posted on 27 January, 2015 at 20:52 Comments comments (12)
Praise the Lord.

On February 14, 2015 at 1 pm, we will be having a study dedicated to marriage.  We will be studying the role of the husband, the role of the wife, how to build a strong relationship with each other, other to deal with conflict and disagreements, how to 'fight right'.  There is not cost and the study is open to all .

The location: 2379 N.E. Loop 410, STE 14  San Antonio,Texas  78217  Steadfast Apostolic Church.

The family is important.  With the help of the Lord, prayer and the willingness to learn, married couples can stay together and live a beautiful life as one.
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The Love of God For the Family

Posted on 23 January, 2015 at 19:08 Comments comments (23)
Having a family and loving your family is not something to be taken lightly.  One must be willing to give up selfishness in order for the family to have the love needed to be strong.

The father has to be willing to learn how to be a father.  The mother has to be willing to learn how to be a mother.  For it is the responsibility of the father and mother to nurture the children.  Selfishness will kill out love.  Stubbornness will kill out love.  What kind of children will a stubborn selfish environment bring forth?  

Parents, be willing to love.  Be willing to put your mate and your children before yourself.  Gods love teaches us to do this.

Marriage

Posted on 5 June, 2014 at 22:50 Comments comments (12)
For the past few weeks I have been teaching lessons on marriage.

When the family is not together, there is room for hurt.  When the father and mother are not getting along, this affects the children.  The family is God's way of providing for the emotional needs and cares  for all who make up the family.  The father plays such an important role in the family.  It is no wonder the adversary works so hard to remove him from from the home.  

The people of God are admonished to work on your marriages.  When both the father and the mother are professing Christ, when trouble comes, seek the Lord together so you can stay together.  Being along is not the will of God.  For if it was, God would not have made man a help meet.  If you have been blessed to have a companion, work together so you can stay together.  For, two is better than one.



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